So, you’re going out to a gay fetish night in London. You’ve got the date, the location, and that fluttery excitement that only comes from the promise of a room full of sweaty, geared up men. But then comes the real question: what the hell do I wear?
Whether you’re a seasoned gearhead or just gearing up for your first darkroom experience, London’s gay fetish scene offers something for everyone—leather pigs, rubber boys, sports lads, dominant leather daddies, and playful pups alike.
So let’s break down what to wear, where to wear it, and how to make it your own at some of our favourite London fetish clubs of the moment. As always, take some of our recommendations with a generous pinch of salt since everyone is unique but as a starting point, we hope this will help.
First Things First: Know Your Night
Not all fetish events are created equal. Some demand full dress code compliance, others are more casual. Here’s a quick guide to the capital’s main stomping grounds:
HUNTER – London’s leather and rubber mainstay. Expect full gear, great vibes, and horny regulars. A leather harness and boots are standard issue here.
Rubberslut or Rubber Underground – Pure latex energy. Full rubber looks reign, from skin-tight catsuits to inflatable pieces and gas masks.
Leather Social – More chill, less play, but gear is still the uniform. Think Muir caps, denim, and vintage vibes.
Hardon / Trough – Sex-forward, sleaze-core events. You’ll see a lot of jockstraps, boots, and armbands. Less gear, more attitude.
GRIP – Sportwear, sneakers, wrestling singlets, compression gear—if it’s gym-coded and tight, it’s game.
Roast – Ok so we know this isn't really a fetish night, but it's a good crossover zone with fetish wear welcome. Bear-heavy, body-positive and a relaxed vibe, but a leather harness or rubber singlet won’t go unnoticed.
Pick Your Kink, Dress the Part
Leather Men
Start with the classic look. A leather harness, jock, and a pair of solid boots. Add a cap, armbands, or chaps if you’re going full throttle. Your leather should look lived-in, not shiny and fresh—unless you’re into the uniform or BLUF look, in which case: yes Sir.
Rubber Boys
This is your playground. Full rubber catsuits, zipped hoods, contrast socks, even neoprene singlets—shine up and suit up. Unless you liek the matte look, you’ll want to prep and polish properly (shout out to Vivishine and our very own Rubber Shine). Rubber up and let your inhibitions drop. If boots aren't your vibe consider sneakers like Nike TNs or Air Max. Totally part of the look.
Sportswear Sluts
Compression shorts, wrestling singlets, footy socks, cropped mesh tees—it’s all about attitude and tight fits. A night at GRIP is the temple for this look. Team colours optional; hard bulges and cocky posturing mandatory.
Underwear & Minimalists
For sleazier nights like Hardon or Trough, less CAN be more. A classic cotton, rubber or leather jockstrap, armbands, and boots will carry you far. Add a collar if you’re subbing or a cocky grin if you’re in charge. If you're ready to dive into the heat, gear up with a rubber singlet or short suit.
Don’t Forget the Codes
Hanky codes still pop up, mostly red (fisting) and yellow (watersports), but not everyone follows the rules. Left pocket = top, right = bottom. Not sure what they're into? Just ask. Not into it? Communicate. You can’t assume these days, and that’s a good thing.
Footwear Matters
Boots are king: 10-hole or 20-hole, laced and polished. But don’t sleep on sneakers—especially for the rubber crowd. Nike TNs and other statement kicks are often fetishised and can elevate a minimal rubber look from sexy to iconic.
Tips for First Timers
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Tips for First Timers
Gay Fetish nights in London are wild, welcoming, and constantly evolving. There’s space for the shiny rubber drone, the bootblack, the leather boy, the sneaker freak, and the gear-curious newcomer. Just remember, the key isn’t so much having the “right” gear—it’s showing up in something that feels right for you.
Gear up, zip up, and get out there. We’ll see you in the dark room.
